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we are moving to tacoma (and six months i’ve forgotten)

5 Apr

hello everyone! so my favorite english/american bestie has officially started her blog (after being unable to due to studying for her law exams), and it has reminded me that i haven’t posted anything in six months.

biggest life point: we are moving to tacoma, washington in may! christopher will begin his journey as a doctor at madigan hospital in june. i am so proud of him! and i am SO EXCITED to move to the pacific north west (please see one of my many posts about how i am eager to leave the south). and also in may, i leave the army!

to fast forward through the months i have missed i will post just two photos from each month:


nov 1

the first important point of november 2016 was that i proudly cast my vote for hillary clinton is this solid red state of tennessee. i cast that vote as a very disillusioned american. to be honest, i also haven’t written much because i have felt so many intense emotions (mostly negative) about the election and i didn’t want to announce them here. needless to say: i am not happy. but i have been buoyed by the women’s march and the activists fighting for what is just and kind and i have began a journey towards helping our country in the small way i think i can handle. but more on that soon.
nov 2chris and i took our yearly photos for our new years card at my family’s home in virginia. it was beautiful and dad has some awesome photo ideas haha.


dec 1
daddy drove over to tennessee for a quick weekend to help me buy a new car! my jetta was affected by the vw diesel scandal – but my buy back gave me a hefty down payment on my new car. also, we spent christmas in houston with the wallaces, which was also great!
dec 2
for new years, our friends kristen, lisa, and becca came to stay with us for a couple of days of fun to ring in 2017! here is a photo of lisa and i before we went downtown. in exciting news, lisa is my brother’s girlfriend! (!!!) it’s awesome because she is a strong, independent woman who is also a veterinarian and also a super cool person and awesome and was became part of our lives because her and chris were friends in BOLC! and then my brother found out she liked the pixies too and the rest was history lol. talk about excellent small world situations.


jan 1
THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF THIS POST. last may, i bought chris and i tickets to see hamilton in new york city for my birthday in january. when i say “it was the most amazing experience of my life, i cried almost the whole time, and it even managed to exceeded my incredibly high expectations,” i mean it very honestly. we love new york city, and hamilton, and snow, and singing songs while walking down the streets. experiencing the musical in its whole form (not just audio like on the cast recording) was a magical situation. wow. i get chills just thinking about it.

jan 2
my baby brother came home!! he spent four-ish months in the middle east doing great things for his brigade and his country. i’m so proud of the high praise he received – but i am even more proud of him for being accepted to the army’s lawyer program! he will be beginning law school at UNC in the fall!! i am surrounded by geniuses!


feb 1
my favorite framily is pictured here via a hastily taken selfie at a four way intersection in atlanta. we all went to see christopher’s favorite band, AFI, and had a great time! i love spending time with these people – so much joy! my heart is already crying for all of our moves. we will live 2,907 apart – i just did the google search. :(

feb 2i was invited to interview at seattle pacific university for their clinical psychology phd program! it was my first time in seattle, and my first time interviewing for an academic program. i ended up being accepted (!), and although i rejected the offer, i absolutely loved the experience and faculty and THE CITY. the mountains and water and love and equality were palpable in all ways. i can’t wait to spend much more time in seattle (which is about 30 miles north of where we are moving).


mar 1
KITTY AND GREG GOT MARRIED IN CANCUN! chris and i took a mini vacation to spend a long weekend with some of our favorite people in the world. we had limitless drinks and food and sunshine. and also, kitty is my pff and i will follow her around the world forever and ever <3

mar 2
CADAVER BALL 2017!!! oh my goodness, world, chris is graduating medical school next month. i’ve loved all four (!) of the cadaver balls i have attended with chris as his girlfriend, then fiance, then wife – but this one was the most magical. i will miss these friends we have in nashville, but they are all going to soar to great medical/life heights.

and as for me, i have accepted my offer to attend the university of washington for their community planning masters program. one our way home from our christmas break in houston, i tried to imagine the perfect degree program for me. i wanted something that would teach me how to help the people of our country at the lowest level – at the community level – how to make their lives better and more healthy and for them to rise to great heights. so that one day i can work in local government, and then hopefully move my way up. and in an amazing turn of events, i found the program that would show me how to do that! and it was in the town we are moving to!

because if i have learned one thing this political season, it is that i am no longer going to sit by and let things happen. i want to help change this country to be more kind. i want to make people’s lives better. i want to advocate for all people, and for the equality of all.

“i am no longer accepting the things i can’t change. i am changing the things i can’t accept.” -angela y. davis



another month of forgetting to write

29 Apr

hello everyone!

so, as the title suggests, another full month has passed without me writing. for that, i apologize!

things that have happened since march 9 include:

  1. the diet ended! i ended up losing like 8 pounds and felt great. since then, i would like to say i have a healthier diet and outlook on food, but that hasn’t stopped me from allowing pasta and chocolate and pizza back into my diet. (but i do highly recommend the whole30 thing if you want to kick start your health!)
  2. the 2016 cadaver ball! (vanderbilt medical school’s annual ball) it was super fun, christopher and i looked great, and the school even arragnged a snap chat filter for the night. awesome. additionally, it was held at our wedding reception venue, so it was neat to go back there :)
  3. i went to visit tampa and my mommy one last time before she moved up north with my daddy. we went to harry potter world and even rode the hogwarts express (and i had a butterbeer and got the souvenir mug lol)! it was lovely, but i’m happy they’re living in a more temperate climate now.
  4. christopher and i got really into the nashville predators. we went and saw one of their first round playoff games, went to a wine tasting “on the ice”, and currently hold tickets for a second round playoff game at the bridgestone! super fans!
  5. i volunteered with “the mission continues” – a great volunteer organization that allows veterans to continue serving in their community. most recently our platoon revamped and did some cosmetic work on a veteran group home that is part of the nashville operation stand down organization.
  6. kitty (my pff) came to visit for two weeks! well really, she enrolled in an army course on the post that i work at, so i of course managed to get into the same course as well so we could do everything together for two weeks. it was the best, and she is the best.
  7. i took my gre psychology exam… i have to wait six weeks for the scores, and i hope i scored in the point range that i was aiming for. but, it is a big relief to be done studying haha.
  8. christopher’s parents came to visit for a weekend! they are so generous and fun to be around and i was glad we could host them and show them what christopher and i’s relationship and home is actually like.
  9. this one is monumental: i just had my annual dental check up and didn’t have to schedule any fillings!!! the commended my mouth! this year of flossing and mouth washing has paid off. i felt so proud to walk out and not have to make follow up appointments. SUCCESS!

and now you are caught up! i will write something substantive soon.


life update and also, a few of my thoughts on feminism

25 Jan

hello everyone!

well, this is my first blog post as a twenty five year old! i can’t even believe it! it was my birthday on monday, and i couldn’t be happier with my life.

first off, a quick photographic life update:

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two of my closest girlfriends, dev and kit, and i met up in asheville over the mlk long weekend! we realized that asheville was a little under five hours from each of us, and realizing we hadn’t visited each other in a while, decided to meet up there for a fun and beer filled weekend! it was so so much fun and i’m so lucky to have such wonderful women in my life!

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i drove home and a few hours later, christopher picked me up and brought me to a wonderful, delicious, lovely birthday dinner at the city winery! christopher treated me like a princess (as always), showed up to my door with flowers, and even let me put a bow on his head when i was opening presents! so excited to marry him in june!


lastly, i used some of my birthday money to retire my favorite little black boots in the world. i bought them a few years ago with my darling friend christa in nyc in a lovely vintage shop. so they were already old. but after many years of me wearing them everywhere, the grommets fell off, the sole detached from the rest of the shoe, and the heel wore so far down you could see the nails haha. so i bought a new pair! they don’t have as much character, but they’re beautiful and comfortable and will last ages. also, it snowed friday night!!! the first time i’ve awoken to a snow covered scene since i’ve moved to tennessee! it was gorgeous – so i went on a run in it before the sun melted it all away! gorgeous!

AND NOW on to a few of my thoughts on feminism:

last week, i was watching the state of the union and felt the need to tweet the below tweet:

if you don’t know how twitter works, when you begin a hashtag it auto fills with what is trending on twitter at the moment. so when i began typing #feminism, i saw what the twitter sphere really thinks of feminism. and i was taken aback and appalled.

can we stop for a second and think about this? i learned in school the worst way to start an essay is with a definition so here’s a definition (from merriam-webster dictionary) :

Feminism - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary Google Chrome, Today at 1.55.51 PM

what about this is awful? which part of this definition brings so much controversy? there are very very very few jobs where women are paid the same amount of money as men for performing the same job. in fact, the paycheck fairness act continually isn’t passed in congress, not a single republican voting for it. my question is, how to do those congressmen and women (!!!!!!) go home to their daughters and explain why they aren’t enabling them the equal rights when they join the work force. despicable.

at work the other day one of my soldiers was making fun of another because his wife made more money than he did. i immediately joined the conversation:
“wait, why are you making fun of him?”
“because he’s a man.”
“that’s hardly an argument. for a second, humor me. wouldn’t you like it if your wife made more money?”
“well, yeah”
“and wouldn’t it be neat if she was able to have a job, which would put less pressure on you?”
(another soldier) “i would love it if i could stay home and raise our kids more!”

it’s such an easy argument to win. i haven’t met anyone that doesn’t willingly admit they would like to not have the pressure of providing for their whole family on their own. yesterday, after chris and i saw the imitation game (highly recommend it) we were discussing all of the different aspects of social commentary in it. one of which was the feminist perspective. i started trying to list the reasons why people still are pushing back the thought of equality. maybe all some people have is the dominance they feel by having a subservient wife/girlfriend/spouse after a long day of being brought down by the man at work. it just makes me so so sad. i want to know my children will be born in a world where they can do whatever they want, and be treated the same way as everyone else. it’s an incredible concept.

secondly, i’m so lucky to be engaged to christopher, who both encourages my thoughts and treasures them. he listens and helps build my arguments and respects my dreams as a future reality, not as the dreams i still believe them to be. yesterday, he gave me the most thoughtful present:


this is a key chain representing the un resolution 1325 which enumerated the vital importance of women’s equality when dealing with peace time and wartime operations. here’s the official write-up from the UN website:

The resolution reaffirms the important role of women in the prevention and resolution of conflicts, peace negotiations, peace-building, peacekeeping, humanitarian response and in post-conflict reconstruction and stresses the importance of their equal participation and full involvement in all efforts for the maintenance and promotion of peace and security. Resolution 1325 urges all actors to increase the participation of women and incorporate gender perspectives in all United Nations peace and security efforts. It also calls on all parties to conflict to take special measures to protect women and girls from gender-based violence, particularly rape and other forms of sexual abuse, in situations of armed conflict. The resolution provides a number of important operational mandates, with implications for Member States and the entities of the United Nations system.”

such a thoughtful gift that will keep me thinking and focused on the important issues in the world.

i hope everyone is looking forward to another great week to inspire and change the world!


also a few interesting articles on feminism and inequality in the workplace/world: