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feisty me

11 Apr

written while watching “the collection” on amazon (i am obsessed. fashion design + paris + beautiful garments + murder and intrigue)

hello! today i “graduated” from the program i have been in for the last four months. if you’re curious, here is a link to their page. the department of commerce supports this amazing program (hiring our heroes) which gives veterans leaving the service a chance to pad their resume with some real job experience and prepare us for our big transition (and has led to job offers and leads within my cohort)! i loved my time with amazon, and am feeling much more prepared for what comes next (even though it won’t be with amazon since i am headed to grad school).

IMG_0878 anyway, with this program finished, i have 23 days left in the army. time to get all of my stuff in order!

the other day, i was out with one of my friends who has recently joined my army unit. i’ve never before had a friend join whatever unit i am part of, which has allowed me the free reign to lead and act as i feel necessary at work without people hearing about me or hearing what other people have said about me. you know how people can talk – and in an army unit full of primarily men, i’ve sometimes wondered what people said about my leadership style and actions behind my back. not because i’ve done anything wrong, but because i think i act much differently than the status quo of male military man. i am passionate and loud and full of opinions, and i’ve learned over the years not to let a conflicting opinion stop my train.

anyway, he is working with a man who i once worked with, and our paths used to cross often. when i asked my friend what said man thought of me, he said he said “although we didn’t agree on everything, she certainly is feisty.

i’ll go with that. my legacy to the army will be my feisty actions. and yes, i will focus on the positive connotations of that word haha.



africa: first impressions

6 Aug
hello blog friends!

so, i have been in my new african location for two days now! and let me begin this by saying, there are so so many things that are so vastly different from the lifestyle i have become accustomed to that everything is exciting, a little overwhelming for me.

for example, the first time i opened the door to my bathroom (i’m already living like a queen having my own bathroom), there was a gecko on the wall, and ants on the floor, even though the prior resident of my room had the floors spotless from cleaning. it hasn’t taken me very long to get over that! not much of a choice!

down our dirt road a little, one of our neighbors has a camel that they take for walks on the street. i’ve already seen a monkey! the cattle here are huge and beautiful. seriously, they are adorable and have gleaming coats. i’m not into cattle in particular, but i absolutely love seeing them now. in the morning i wake up to roosters and a huge amount of bird calls. if you’re into birds, please come to uganda. there are so many varieties! 

this morning on the run i went on with two people i work with (we aren’t allowed to go anywhere without a buddy), two adorable young girls saw us, laughed, and joined us on our run for a good 800 meters before turning back to what i assume was their bus stop for school. so sweet! i love nothing more than waving at everyone i pass by, because the friendliness that is exuded by a returning smile and wave is really quite special. 

however there are moments i remember the turbulent nature of this region in africa. like when i was explained that we don’t have a sofa agreement here, and if i am pulled over in a car, or get into a bind, i need to legitimately flee the scene to a safe house or else very bad things could happen to me in custody. or how the police (who are friendly as well) carry ak-47s slung around their shoulders. 

but when i go and buy a freshly baked loaf of bread, say hello to the residents of this beautiful town, or bite into fresh sugarcane my hope and happiness is restored. honestly, the british colonized this place for a reason, it is beautiful and the weather is legitimately like that of paradise. people care here, and it’s easy to tell. already, on day two, i wish i had my family/friends/christopher here with me because i already think it will be hard for me to leave. if i had them, i would be completely perfect with my life. 

i know i have no insightful things to say, but i just wanted to share my first impression of uganda with you all!



assumptions, make an

19 Feb

listening to: the album “fire romance fire” by my fiction

today was an incredibly busy day at work. four day weeks mean fitting five work days into fewer. and last week i had the opportunity to be in class all week, setting me back another four days of work. i knew i was going to have a mountain of work to attack once i got situated in my office. and that, i did. 

i sent out a message to one of my staffs which is helping me organize an event for my unit, and since normally i have only facetime with them, it was one of my first emails to the members. of course, my main point of punctuation was the exclamation point. and those who email me/deal with me on the internet know that i lean more toward ! than . i exclaim life! but, one of the people on my staff didn’t know that. and he came in, frazzled, to my office later to ask if he was on track with his taskings. i smiled and let him know everything was going to plan, and thanked him so much for caring. 

later my platoon sergeant said to me “ma’am, sounds like you gave sgt so and so a scare earlier today with that email” and i said, “what? how could that be, it was only a reminder!” which he glanced up at me and said, “he said something about thinking you were yelling” i faced palmed and he continued, “its your exclamation points causing trouble!” and then we laughed because both he and i know i’m not one to yell. 

but it got me to thinking – when else have i assumed that everyone around me understands me completely, but really they are just nodding their heads and dealing. the lesson i learned today was that maybe i should take the extra few minutes to fully explain and make sure everyone truly knows what i mean. nothing is worse than assuming one thing and the complete other being the reality. 

after many a broken relationship, christopher and i promised at the very start of our romance to be completely clear with one and other – and it has probably been one of the most beneficial “girlfriend decrees” i have ever made. he can sense any smidgen of trepidation in my response to a question or a tilt of my head to something he’s said, and immediately will ask what had bothered me. neither one of us is willing to assume the other is alright, because even that is a tiny lie that has the potential to compound upon other tiny lies and lead to something heartbreaking. and i love him, and care too much about him to ever allow that to happen.

assuming is easy, but being clear and truthful will save you the heartache and pain in the end.

assumptions make an ass out of you and me after all!